Hello I hope you’re all well. So it was my 22nd birthday the other week and I spent the day In London with my best friends Hannah, Lou and Carys drinking cocktails, eating street food and giggling non stop – I’ve written all about my day in another post over here.
So I was kinda thinking just before my 22nd birthday how 22 seemed like such a boring age compared to 21 and for some reason so much older. I know it’s just a number and even writing that down sounds a little crazy but I can’t help but feel like I just wanted to stay 21 forever. It also got me thinking about the last time I wrote this sort of post which was on my 20th birthday and how much I had changed in those 2 years…because I literally don’t even recognise myself back then (not in terms of look but in terms of personality and attributes).
So here it goes, 22 things I’ve learnt in 22 years.
Tattoos don’t hurt as much as you think– I got my first tattoo done this year just below my rib cage which resembles the outline of a woman. I don’t think I’ve ever been as nervous as I was the day I travelled to London to get it done but my god it didn’t hurt nearly as much as I thought it would, in fact I kinda liked the feeling of having it done. I definitely want a few more small ones!
If you want something done just go and do it stop overthinking – In relation to the topic of tattoos I also got my nose pierced and added a few more piercings to my ears this year (I don’t know what it was about 2019 that made me think oh fuck it) but that’s literally my mind set now in regards to any tattoos or piercings.
Always trust your gut in situations – There’s been a few times now that certain things haven’t felt right, whether that’s being somewhere and feeling slightly unsafe and removing myself from a situation but also the other end of the spectrum where I have a gut feeling someone is lying to me about something or not being 100% real with me…I’ve found that in pretty much all of these situations my gut instinct has been right. SO, YES GIRLS LISTEN TO YOUR GUT!!
Wine will ALWAYS give you a headache in the morning – the amount of times I’ve decided to drink wine of a night and actually believe I wouldn’t wake up in the morning without a headache is beyond me, but I guess that’s something I’m never really going to actually process in my brain, and I know I can’t be alone in this one?!?!
22 is still young, stop panicking – I think 21 so far has been my favourite age and turning 22 frightened me a little as there’s a lot of things I thought I’d have done by 22 that I haven’t done yet or I thought I’d be at a certain stage in my life which I’m not quite at yet. But I have to constantly remind myself I’m still SO young and I have all the time in the world to do all the things I haven’t.
You can never hide your parcels from your parents – I used to think I was great at hiding my recent orders from my parents, but when your mum is the one that usually ends up signing for them or notices straight away when you have something new on…it’s pretty difficult to keep that a secret.
There’s no point in holding grudges, life is too short – I don’t actually think at this point there is anyone in my life from the past that I still hold a grudge with or who I am not on at least good terms with. I’ve pretty much made up with most people from my past or at least made it clear we will both be civil with one another.
You’ll want to go out less as you get older – It was fun going out all the time when you’re young (I mean like 16-20) and I used to be the type of person that would probably have been out drinking every weekend and going to clubs but now I would choose having a takeaway and watching a film over that. I honestly think I’m over clubs and prefer day drinking to going out at night…give me a cute London bar or pub garden anyday.
You DO suit long hair – I don’t know if anyone’s noticed how flippin long my hair has got and to be honest I can’t quite believe it. I haven’t had my hair this long since I was about 15 before my friend Fathima convinced me to cut it short and since then I’ve always had it relatively short. I actually in fact quite like it this length and can’t imagine going shorter anytime soon.
You’ll stop comparing yourself to people as much as you did when you were young – Now I can’t talk for everyone on this one, but from my own point of view ever since I passed the age of 20 I stopped constantly comparing myself to others. Everyone is different and I get that there will always be people in life who look prettier than you, have more things than you, dress better than you, go nicer places than you but I got bored before of always evaluating and comparing my life with the lives of others and instead decided to focus on the things I do like about myself and the things that make me happy.
You can’t force your opinions on everyone – It only just dawned on me the other day that I have quite strong beliefs for a lot of things, and what I’m talking about is topics like feminism and sexism etc. Now I always, always, always put my point of view across if I think someone is saying something that is out of order or morally wrong and I normally end up crying and getting so frustrated when the other person just isn’t understanding where I’m coming from. I realised recently that as much as you can try and get someone to see your point of view, there won’t always be people that understand you and want to try and change their views.
You’ll stop wearing makeup everyday because you literally won’t care what you look like – Gone are the days of wearing makeup every day (something that I have done ever since I was about 15). I think when you are a lot younger you care a lot more about your appearance and don’t mind getting up at half six each morning to put on a full face of makeup, but half the time now I would take an extra hour in bed over getting up early to put tonnes of makeup on my face.
You’ll never get too old for family holidays – I know a lot of people my age stop going on family holidays and I’ve heard parents talk about how they wouldn’t invite their 20 something year old on holiday because they know they wouldn’t want to come. But seriously I don’t think I will ever get bored of a family holiday and I know that’s because of how close I am to my family and I know full well if they went away without inviting me I’d have a bone to pick with them…
You don’t need to explain yourself to everyone – I used to always think I had to explain myself to everyone. My actions, my thoughts, my decisions etc. I guess that was when I cared a lot more about what people thought of me and if I had something going on in my life that people thought was a bit odd or asked me lots of questions about I’d always feel the need to answer. Now I don’t really explain myself to people, purely because I don’t have the energy nor should my actions or thoughts matter to other people.
Speak your mind, don’t hold things in – I was never the type of person that would completely express her feelings for someone, probably for the fear of rejection and because when I have done in the past it’s gone completely west. Now I find it easier and don’t even majorly care about sounding stupid or someone turning around and being like soz I don’t feel the same way. At least I’ve got it of my chest right?
Never stay up past 2am on a work night – I am such an early bird in terms of getting up and going to sleep and I need at least a good 7/8 hours of sleep at night If I plan on actually getting through the following day at work. No one wants a grumpy Caitlin, believe me.
You’ll start valuing experiences more – As I got into my 20s I realised just how much I valued experiences more. I spend a lot more time taking in moments rather than constantly trying to capture them because I’ve realised if you live in the moment you’ll feel a lot happier, and sometimes it’s nice to just stop and be in the present and take in what’s around you.
The only two lipstick colours I suit is red and nude – This is such a funny one for me because of the amount of lipsticks I own in pretty much every shade imaginable. However just because It looks nice on the model doesn’t mean you aren’t going to end up looking absolutely horrific and like a clown.
There’s a reason people from your past aren’t in your life – I lot of time as you get older and hold less grudges with people or end up making up it can seem like one of the options is to let these people back into your life. However for me, I think I’ve learnt that there is a reason these people are no longer in your present life and that’s because some people and the memories you had with them belong in the past.
Even though you used to go on about loving being pale, there’s nothing better than the feeling of being tanned – I find it hilarious how I didn’t start using fake tan till I was 20 and before then I just embraced my paleness which don’t get me wrong was amazing and I still don’t mind being super pale but my god do I look better in outfits when I have a bit of a tan.
2 day hangovers DO EXIST – I had never had a 2 day hangover until last year when a wild night of excess drinking meant Sunday was a complete write off and monday was just as bad.
It’s okay to mute people on Facebook and Instagram who are doing your head in – Not everyone is your cup of tea and sometimes people start posting stuff on Social Media and you’re literally sitting there like WHY??? Now it’s not always like you can just unfriend/unfollow these people, especially if you know them so sometimes muting them can be a much safer bet and means you can enjoy seeing other people’s posts who don’t annoy you as much.